When it comes to the holidays and our millennial children, the classic song lyrics “Over the river and through the woods to Grandmother’s house we go” need an update.
Rather than visit, the kids may ask us to do the traveling. If they do come to us, there’s a good chance it won’t be on the actual holiday.
For parents of adult children, the holidays can mean abandoning decades-long traditions, and that’s not without some angst. But parents need to adapt to the changing family dynamic, says clinical psychotherapist Deanna Brann, author of Reluctantly Related. “Parents can’t assume that the traditions they’ve always had are going to continue.”