Let them know your expectations when they visit
When self-proclaimed Tiger Mom Amy Chua discovered that her two daughters planned to live in her Manhattan apartment for the summer, she decided to take control. A Yale Law School professor, Chua drew up a contract with house rules for her 20-something children. “I was on the verge of becoming a tenant farmer in my own life,” she wrote in the Wall Street Journal, explaining her reasoning.
The rules ranged from making beds daily, to keeping the couch pillows plumped and greeting parents with “spontaneous joy and gratitude whenever they visit.” Whenever their dad came from Connecticut, the refrigerator was to be stocked with fresh orange juice.