A friend says that when her adult children ask her for holiday gift suggestions, she tells them, “I want you. I want you to keep coming around, to bring your kids around. I want you to ask me questions, ask my advice, tell me your problems.”
That’s the wish of many parents, but it’s not so easy to influence and remain emotionally close to our adult children when they are living on their own. Ron Edmondson, pastor of the Immanuel Baptist Church in Lexington, Ky., often advises parents on how to relate to their older kids. He offers several suggestions for how parents might build trust and stay relevant in their children’s lives.