Adult siblings gather round a conference table in a lawyer’s office, arguing bitterly over an inheritance. “We never thought this would happen to our family,” one comments. It’s a scene that Michigan estate attorney P. Mark Accettura has witnessed repeatedly. He has seen so many families ripped apart by feuds over a will that he wrote a book, Blood & Money, on how to avoid them.
While money may appear to be the cause of family fights, it’s usually about much more than that, Accettura says. “Money is how we keep score of who’s important in the fight for the intangibles of love, approval and primordial survival.”